I’d like to live in a Matriarchal Utopia. I think it’d be nicer than where we live now. If you’d like to live there too, then I made this blog especially for you.
What’s the Matriarchal Utopia all about then?
We are not anti-men. IMHO, feminists aren’t the people who are anti-men, non-feminists are. I’m happy to pay for my own drinks and carry my own suitcase. Non-feminist women are the ones who think men should pay for things, sort out the car insurance and they’ll get rewarded with sex. If I have sex with a man it’s because I want to, not cos I’m trying to get him to do something for me. I try to treat men as fellow grown ups, not manipulate them like toddlers.
The Matriarchal Utopia is not about replacing ‘men on top’ with ‘women on top’. If you’ll forgive me, that’s a very patriarchal mindset to think anyone has to be on top.
I think the patriarchy is bad for everyone as we are all given such narrow gender roles to play, and I think people vary more than that. Some women want to watch football or mess around with car engines. Some men like clothes or talking about their feelings. Without wanting to sound like a motivational poster, I think we should all be allowed to be who we want to be. Not brainwashed by culture into thinking we have to fit a certain mould just because of what shaped genitals we have.
I think (based partly on the marvellous work of Deborah Tannen) that men think in more hierarchical terms than women – someone has to be one up, and someone else has to be one down. Women are more focussed on networks and relationships. i.e. the way you ‘win’ as a man is by beating people, the way you ‘win’ as a woman is by having more allies.
It seems to me that an awful lot of what is wrong with the world stems from this hierarchical mindset. And that a more connections and co-operation-based mindset would be a hell of a lot better as a basis for a world that didn’t suck.
And you know what, we’ve been trying it the other way for quite a while now, and see where that has got us? Let’s just give it a shot, eh? What have we got to lose?